Note to Cosmo and Ask Men: Valentine's Day is not an entitlement
Wednesday February 10, 2010 11:04 PM  In the annals of unholy unions, the recent one between Ask (Emasculated) Men dot com and Cosmopolitan has to be in the Top 10. Not only does Ask Men seem to have more articles written by women than Good Housekeeping but letting the writers from Cosmo infiltrate their pages makes the fox watching the chicken coup analogy seem trite.
Neither one of these publications seem to want to say what needs to be said and that is most modern women don't deserve Valentine's Day! Between girls giving it up to every idiot with the right line and good looks and the extreme feminists that make the concept of marriage seem like a life sentence of celibacy and aggravation it is no wonder why so many guys have accidentally intentionally forgotten about February 14th.
Before I get accused of being just a bitter cynical guy that can't get a date let me be clear, I am a very happily married man; mainly because I picked a woman not a girl, a lady not a feminist. She fulfills with expert precision all her wifely duties and we are a true team. I make the cash and she makes the home. This is an oversimplification but in general we don't focus on the same tasks. I know this sort of archaic set up seems like oppression and a cesspool of patriarchal dominance but in fact we negotiate our roles very well because we are both committed to doing the things that bring happiness and comfort to the other person. This is not the ONLY way to have a happy home but it is how we have achieved one.
An author from Cosmo posted an article in Ask Men explaining to men why Valentine's Day is so important to women as if we didn't already know. We know, the question is, do we care? The other question is what would make us care? It comes down to a couple of simple things.
Understanding What Love is Really About
Love is about giving, and making your lady feel special on this "holiday" created for jewelers, restaurants and flower shops is required. Our execution of this duty is a demonstration of how important it is for us to make you feel special. Maturity teaches us that love means you derive happiness through bringing joy to someone else. Once you have figured this out then you are probably ready for a relationship.
What Makes a Guy Want to Celebrate Valentine's Day?
It all depends on how you treat him. Real men are easy to please. Feed him; give him sex and stroke his ego and you can feel very confident that he will remember Valentine's Day. If your attitude is one of entitlement then you are most likely a lousy girlfriend or wife and have not earned the flowers and chocolates.
Ask Men posted an article in Cosmo that is equally flawed. It claimed that "we don't show emotions until strongly provoked into doing so. Blame this on generations of fathers who told their sons to "man up" until restraint became part of our genetic code." This is an indirect assault on masculinity. Being a man has nothing to do with acknowledging a holiday or not. True, most men don't want to sit around all day discussing their emotions but doing something special for your woman does not require a guy who TIVO's Oprah and reruns of Sex and the City. The author of this article attributes "forgetting" to the emotional conflict from growing up with a masculine father and "social instincts" that tell us to dial up the local flower shop. I have a feeling that the author did not grow up with his dad in the house because this sounds like a load of crap he read in some Psychology magazine or Cosmo.
There can be no progress on any topic about the sexes until we start acknowledging what has really gone wrong between us. With more guys than ever growing up in broken homes with purely the feminine point of view, guys are ill equipped to understand their role and responsibilities towards women. Likewise, rabid feminism has turned the objects of our affection into bitches that often spend their twenties whoring around right up until they get married. Then the sex, affection and adoration is replaced by nagging and an attitude that being a wife doesn't mean much more than occupying the same space and wearing a ring.
Being a man does not necessarily mean being unaffectionate and being a good wife doesn't necessarily mean that you are a sex kitten that cooks dinner every night and "obeys" your husband. There are however, natural tendencies that must be understood and nurtured. I am sorry that these genetic differences are politically inconvenient to some feminists with an axe to grind but not nearly as sorry as these women will be on February 14th.
Stay Sharp!
COSMO from ASK MEN: Why Men Forget Valentine's Day
ASK MEN from COSMO: Why Women Make a Big Deal Out of Valentine's Day 
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Feb 11, 2010 Anais says: I'm actually so sick of being constantly bombarded with consumerist messages about when I (or my husband) have to buy something. I don't need a stupid holiday imposed on me by Hallmark and Federated Department Stores telling me how to express my love. A few years ago I told my husband that we are no longer giving each other gifts of monetary value for Valentines Day. Now our tradition has become that every year he makes an elaborate meal and I provide after dinner entertainment. It's much more special that way and I don't feel like a greedy bitch, squeezing gifts out of my husband at every opportunity. Boycott the stores this year! Who needs more clutter in their home, anyways?
Feb 11, 2010
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